The Emotional Ride of a Divorce or Separation
By Robyn Weisman, Esq.
Ever take a ride in an amusement park? Your adventure goes from nerves, to fear, to relief, and then, wow, that was ok, not as bad as I thought! All the emotions involved in a roller coaster ride you feel as you go through a divorce or separation. In a divorce there are ups and downs, twists and turns, moments of high anxiety and then eventually clarity, freedom, and relief.
Are these feelings normal?
· Doubt
· Know what you need to do but ambivalence
· Thankful now you can take care of yourself
· Sadness
· Excitement about possibilities
· Fear of the future
OWN YOUR FEELINGS: THEY ARE TOTALLY NORMAL
How do you get through it?
· Create a support system, people who will not judge, make you feel bad or confused, but people who will lift you up and you can rely on
· Allow yourself to have feelings, take it one day at a time, all will be ok
· Allow yourself to miss your spouse or the life you had, but realize there is a future and a bright light ahead
· Go see a professional if you need to. Therapy can help you through the days and months ahead
· Create a new chapter of life in your head and start getting excited over the new experiences that are and may be in store for you
· Get to know yourself again, what did you used to like to do, what brought you excitement and step into it again
· Celebrate your winnings, each step taken, allow yourself to be proud
How do you get through it?
· Create a support system, people who will not judge, make you feel bad or confused, but people who will lift you up and you can rely on
· Allow yourself to have feelings, take it one day at a time, all will be ok
· Allow yourself to miss your spouse or the life you had, but realize there is a future and a bright light ahead
· Go see a professional if you need to. Therapy can help you through the days and months ahead
· Create a new chapter of life in your head and start getting excited over the new experiences that are and may be in store for you
· Get to know yourself again, what did you used to like to do, what brought you excitement and step into it again
· Celebrate your winnings, each step taken, allow yourself to be proud
Robyn D. Weisman, Esq., Attorney,
Mediator, Collaborative Lawyer, Director of Divorce Mediation & Family
Services of New York, Ltd. Serving New York City and Long Island 631-465-2140, robyn.weisman@yahoo.com, www.divorcemediationandfamilyservices.com
